Mass Mailer Software

I AM LOOKING FOR A SOFTWARE PROGRAM THAT CAN SEND MASS EMAILS APPROX 20000 a day I DONT WANT TO TAGGED AS A SPAMMER AND I DONT WANT TO GET BLACKLISTED. I WANT THE MOST CUTTING EDGE SOFTWARE THAT IS PROVEN TO WORK. I have my own server. I require a demo before I purchase your software. I need tracking and want to send both text and html at the same time. each email will be unique Email message personalization Email messages templates Built-in database to manage email lists Easy html message editing Supports embedded images and flash Bulk Mailer should allows you to send bulk email just in few minutes, need to have a Email Verifier which allows users to verify your mailing list with just one click and track emails ounces email reaches the user List duplicate deletion List Filtering Exclusion list Inclusion list I would want to have the source code, that I may make future improvements There are two options for this project. I have approximately 400 craigslist forwarding email addresses (not direct e-mail addresses) per day (5 days) that I need to send an e-mail (1 page which includes a website address). As you know Craigslist has various restrictions and does not like people sending more than a few e-mails. This is not spam, but a legitimate service to these people. I am also an advertiser on Craigslist so I will expect several of my own e-mails per day. Option #1 is to provide a program which can send these e-mails without being flagged by Craigslist. This program must be tested to get the e-mails through to the ad placers. I have 3 websites I can send these e-mails from. Since I will be expecting some of the e-mails each day I will be able to monitor the effectievness of the program. Option #2 would be for someone to actually send these e-mails for me in such a way so as not to be flagged and to get them done on a daily basis. Since I will be expecting some of the e-mails each day I will be able to monitor the effectiveness of the mailer. It needs to be effective and untraceable so as not to get my web site into a problem with Craigslist. I would e-mail the list on a daily basis. You can bid this project either or both ways. i will consider all.